This is a blog describing my personal adoption experience and on going progress. It has my thoughts, feelings, insights, and complaints on my process and sometimes even the adoption process as a whole. My goal is to create a blog that will show the realistic views of adoption from a birth mothers point of view and hopefully to provide support to others in the same situation that I was and still am in.
Saturday, April 21, 2012
What should I do for Birth Mother's Day this year?
You could do something special for your son, you could read a book about adoption, adoptees, or other adoption related article? You could make your son a blanket or some other keepsake. You could write your son a letter he could have for the rest of his life? I did not know there was a birthmothers day. I wonder if my birthmother knows that? I just celebrate her on mothers day... is there a separate day for birthmothers?
Yeah, its the saturday before mothers day. its a relatively new holiday started in 1990 by a group of birth mothers from seattle. I was thinking of growing some lady balls and asking if I could visit him, but then I remember that I have school all day saturday from now until June. So I can't do anything :(. Those are great suggestions though and I will put those in my back pocket for later :)
Why don't you see if you can go on Sunday? I would hope they would invite you to the mothers day at their church or something- but apparently that is not the case- I would call and see if you could see him Sunday.
Sunday is mothers day, and I really do feel like that day is for his adoptive mom and their family. Plus Im not to comfortable asking for extra visits yet.
She is an adoptive mom and an adoptee. She has a lot of really great things to say. The birthmother of her daughter also blogs...http://ericaljohnson.blogspot.com/
I encourage you to go read these blogs. I am so sad that you do not feel comfortable asking for extra visits. I hope that in time they are able to open their hearts to you and you will get to be a part of your mutual sons life. I did not get to find my birthmom until I was 20 years old and did not meet her until I was 26. I thought of her everyday.
You could do something special for your son, you could read a book about adoption, adoptees, or other adoption related article? You could make your son a blanket or some other keepsake. You could write your son a letter he could have for the rest of his life? I did not know there was a birthmothers day. I wonder if my birthmother knows that? I just celebrate her on mothers day... is there a separate day for birthmothers?
ReplyDeleteYeah, its the saturday before mothers day. its a relatively new holiday started in 1990 by a group of birth mothers from seattle. I was thinking of growing some lady balls and asking if I could visit him, but then I remember that I have school all day saturday from now until June. So I can't do anything :(. Those are great suggestions though and I will put those in my back pocket for later :)
ReplyDeleteYou can do many of my suggestions from afar- even if you don't get to see him.
ReplyDeleteWhy don't you see if you can go on Sunday? I would hope they would invite you to the mothers day at their church or something- but apparently that is not the case- I would call and see if you could see him Sunday.
ReplyDeleteSunday is mothers day, and I really do feel like that day is for his adoptive mom and their family. Plus Im not to comfortable asking for extra visits yet.
ReplyDeleteThis is a blog I think you should read.
ReplyDeletehttp://www.rebeccahawkes.com
She is an adoptive mom and an adoptee. She has a lot of really great things to say. The birthmother of her daughter also blogs...http://ericaljohnson.blogspot.com/
I encourage you to go read these blogs. I am so sad that you do not feel comfortable asking for extra visits. I hope that in time they are able to open their hearts to you and you will get to be a part of your mutual sons life. I did not get to find my birthmom until I was 20 years old and did not meet her until I was 26. I thought of her everyday.